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What’s new with you?

Hi there!

What have you been up to lately? Who are you becoming? Where do you want to go? What juicy new projects are you excited about?

Are you in transition? Moving from one thing to the next? Feeling like it is time for a change? Or maybe life is just changing all around you?

I’m currently in transition myself. I’m participating in a Certification program, to help me earn two professional coaching designations: a CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach) and ACC (Associate Certified Coach). I’m currently accepting new clients and I’m offering a FREE Sample Coaching Session for anyone who is interested.

Working with a coach is a great way to get support for yourself as you move through a transition phase. Coaching allows you to get clear on what you want and why its important. About who you want to be and what you want more of. And how to get there.

I am also working on building a community for creatives who are spiritual but not religious, called Creative Spirit U. Coaching and Creative Spirit U have become my primary two projects at the moment, and my artwork has taken a bit of a back seat for now.

I’d love to hear what’s new with you! Please leave me a comment and let me know what’s the latest and greatest in your world! ♥

Growing a Thicker Skin

Sisters image by Virginia Mol and used with permission: http://www.morguefile.com/archive/display/143446

Sisters image by VirginiaMol and used with permission.

Hello! I recently came across an article by Tara Sophia Mohr called Dealing with Criticism: A Guide for Brilliant Women. In it, she states that women have been contacting her about a previous article, looking for more tips and advice about:

Get A Thick Skin. If you take risks, sometimes you’ll get a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes. Can you think of any leader you admire who doesn’t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics? Get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back and being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and universally known as a nice person.”

Wow. That’s a mouthful!

But it is oh-so-true that women, especially, have a tough time dealing with criticism because of the way we’ve been raised.

I remember my sister calling me out of the blue one day. I was surprised that she called in the middle of the work day, and even more surprised to hear her crying – to feel how genuinely upset she was. One of her work friends had suddenly changed her tune and had verbally attacked my sister.

And I had to share with her an unfortunate truth: when you arrive at the top, it makes you a target. You suddenly become the alpha leader that everyone else is trying to unseat. And the criticism and attacks really amp up in earnest. I told her that if someone isn’t calling you a bitch, you’re not doing it right. And if someone IS calling you a bitch, then you are probably doing SOMETHING very right.

It seems to me sometimes that women are even bitchier with one another than men. I don’t know why, but men seem to have an understanding that no one can be top dog for long – and they also use that as fuel to drive themselves to better performances. So maybe next time THEY are the top dog.

But women? We can be so mean and cruel to one another. Instead of celebrating our moments of success together. Why is that? How can we change and improve this situation for future generations?

I love Tara Sophia Mohr’s two-step advice:

  • Ask yourself: “What am I making this criticism mean? How am I interpreting it?” What else could it mean?
  • Ask yourself: “How does this criticism touch upon a negative belief I hold about myself? What do I want to replace that old belief with? What new belief would serve me better?”

Tara’s advice suggests that how we react to criticism is a choice we make. We can choose to interpret criticism negatively – or we can use it as a signpost to spur our growth.

We do not feel all criticisms equally. Some we instantly dismiss because we know they aren’t true. The ones that hurt us are the ones that resonate with some baggage we’re carrying. Some negative belief about ourselves that we formed somewhere along the way. Instead of feeling hurt or ashamed, we can use the criticism as an opportunity to see where our baggage needs to be replaced or upgraded.

My best advice about growing a thicker skin?

It doesn’t happen overnight. It happens a little bit at a time, when you stop feeling only the pain and the shame and make the conscious choice to see criticism as a signpost pointing the way to where you can improve your beliefs and your life!

Please take time this week to celebrate someone else’s success

Treat the women in your life like sisters and celebrate their successes with them. Share the successes instead of attacking. Help create a better world for yourself and for the women who follow.

And thanks for stopping by! ♥

Give yourself permission to discover yourself!

Spiral Fractal by pschubert and used with permission: http://www.morguefile.com/archive/display/603127

Spiral Fractal by pschubert and used with permission.

Hi there! The other day, a friend of mine (Thanks, Matt!) recommended an article from Inc. Magazine, called 5 Reasons Why Most People Never Discover Their Purpose. In the article, the author, Shelley Prevost, states:

“We are lured into thinking that the purpose of life equals upward social mobility, establishing a career, accumulating wealth, competing (and winning), and holding power… Here’s what I’d like to propose: Maybe our purpose has nothing to do with what we do for a living. Maybe our purpose is really about living authentically and discovering who we really are.”

I happen to agree with this idea. Life purpose is less about the destination and more about the journey. It’s about giving yourself permission to discover yourself. To learn what makes you uniquely you. To stop comparing yourself with others, to stop trying to be like everyone else, and to really learn what YOU want from this journey.

Give yourself that permission! Give yourself permission to be still and silent. To disconnect from media and everyone else’s opinions about you. And to really lean in, and go inside yourself, to discover what makes you authentically you. And what would genuinely bring you joy and happiness and fulfillment and balance and meaning.

And, if this all sounds scary to you, then bring a friend along to guide you: hire a coach! ;-)

What will you discover if you follow this path? Where might it take you? What surprises might you find along the way?

Thanks for stopping by!

Video: Coaching Journey Update #4

Hi there! Today I’m sharing a 4-minute video update about my journey to become a more polished, professional, intentional coach. In the video, I talk about my experience in my second coach training class.

In class, I discovered that:

I am the heart who connects!

I’d love to be your coach and connect you:

  • To your authentic self
  • To the power of choice
  • To more of what you want and less of what you don’t
  • To your big, large, juicy, fulfilling, amazing, wonderful, tremendous, PHENOMENAL life!

Sign up for a FREE sample session at: https://gaal.acuityscheduling.com!

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Here’s a 6-1/2 minute video of my reaction to the Co-Active Coaching Fundamentals course:

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Or, sign up for a FREE sample coaching session with me!

If you like the experience and decide to continue coaching, I am currently asking that you invest $25/month for 12 45-minute sessions spaced over 4 months, paid in advance:

Thanks for stopping by!

I have the most amazing clients!

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Hello! Today I’d like to share this fabulous post that I spotted the other day on Facebook – and please know that I share it with Lisa’s permission.

I am having so much fun leaning into and growing into this new role as a coach. And I adore my clients! Each one of you is teaching me so much and I am so grateful that you are also finding it useful and meaningful and worthwhile.

Thank you! ♥

Why hire a coach? How to suggest coaching…

Hello! A few of you have asked me why someone might hire a coach and what you could say to a friend if you’d like to suggest or recommend me or coaching in general.

Have you heard about coaching?

Many people have heard about coaching (aka life coaching as opposed to sport coaching), but very few know much about it.

Coaching is a special relationship that you set up with someone who is trained to help you move forward in your life. You and the coach both give this relationship and your conversations special status. For example, the coach agrees NOT to give you advice, but instead to help YOU figure out what YOU want to do to move forward in your life. In return, you allow the coach to interrupt or push you or make you a bit uncomfortable, to help you explore all your options and perhaps see something you may have missed.

Coaching compared to other alternatives

Before hiring a coach, many clients often try other alternatives first. For example, when you have a desire to move forward, to make changes, you often talk first to people who know you. People you love and trust and respect. This might include family members, friends, colleagues at work, or a boss or mentor.

Coaching is different than talking with someone you already know. The coach is an objective, third party, who doesn’t have anything to gain from you choosing one thing instead of another. And coaches are trained to help you break through any limiting beliefs you may have and to believe that anything is possible.

Many people also try traditional counseling or therapy, before trying a coach.

A counselor or therapist generally focuses on what’s wrong, and how you got to this point, and you spend most of the time on what’s broken. A coach doesn’t care about how you got here. Instead, a coach wants to meet you wherever you are on your path and serve you as you move forward. You spend time building the relationship and the coach tease information out of you to help you find your own solutions. However, conversations with a coach are confidential, but they are not privileged and protected by law like conversations with a counselor or therapist can be.

These are the ways that coaching is different from the alternatives like talking with someone you’re close to or seeing a counselor. Coaching is sometimes best understood by examining what it is NOT.

Example of what you might say to a friend

No one wants to have their friend tell them, “Hey, you’re messed up! You should see a therapist!” And none of us wants to be the friend who says that, either! {horrors!}

So what CAN you say? Here’s one idea:

Have you heard about (life) coaching? I have a friend who’s studying to be a coach, and who’s looking for practice clients, and she told me a bit about it. She says it’s a special relationship that the coach and client design together, to serve the client as he or she moves forward in life. Especially with big goals, dreams, and transitions that aren’t going to be wrapped up in an afternoon. She said it isn’t like therapy – she doesn’t give advice or anything – but instead she helps you find your own answers and acts as an accountability partner. And a big benefit is that she doesn’t have any hidden agendas and lets you be the expert in your own life. How do you feel about coaching?

Please note that this isn’t a suggestion that your friend NEEDS a coach. It’s just getting the topic out there. And the opportunity to try coaching. In what I hope is a completely no-pressure kind of way.

If your friend is interested, they will ask you how they can get in touch. Please mention that I have free sample sessions, send them here to my blog, and ask them to click Coaching in the upper right corner (which will take them to http://gaalcreative.com/coaching).

Any other ideas of what to say to a friend?

Any other ideas? Please take a couple of moments to share your suggestions with me! I need your help! ♥

And thanks for stopping by!